“Thank God I’m an alcoholic — because otherwise I wouldn’t have known grace!” JP

We dislike trials. We hate difficulties or roadblocks or obstacles. We want nothing insurmountable because we want to be strong enough to surmount anything. After all, we like to feel good about ourselves, and we like to know that whatever happens, we will know how to work around it.

But when things don’t work out and we begin to feel powerless, we have to look beyond ourselves. When we fall on our face, we have to reach up for help. We need to experience God’s grace.

I’ve hit the wall more than once in my life. I have not been shipwrecked by alcohol or drugs, but my idols have been deceptively dangerous for their insidiousness. I’ve been taken down by pride, craved approval, acted the know-it-all. I’ve driven my family crazy by constant micromanaging. And like JP in the quote above, I’ve hit the skids and slid off into the ditch when my self-effort failed me.

But only when we’ve failed do we experience God’s grace. Not before. When we’ve biffed it badly, then we see just how deep and rich and comprehensive is God’s grace. When we’re out of grace for ourselves, then we can experience the full measure of His grace. It’s not the healthy who need a doctor but the sick.

My mentor told me years ago that one thing angels don’t experience is God’s grace, because they don’t need it. Well, I am grateful for my many trials for many reasons, but mostly because they have shown me God’s grace.

“My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness. Therefore, I will boast all the more gladly about my weakness, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.” 2 Corinthians 12:9

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3 thoughts on “When Do You Learn God’s Grace?

  1. Susan, I am so thankful for your blog and posts. Are you aware of any support groups for parents in our situation in the Houston area? Thanks, Elayne

    Sent from my iPhone

    • Well, there is PFLAG, which is not Christian. I do not know of any other groups, but I would google it. (I will also email you some thoughts.) If you do get any people together and would like me to come speak, I’d be happy to. Best and hope you find something. And thank you for your kind encouragement!

    • If you are interested in an online support group there is Barbara Johnson’s Spatula Ministries. You can email other Christian parents with LGBT kids.

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