Jesus Wept… Because of Christians, not Gays.


“Jesus wept.”  But not because of gays.

This is Rob, Susan’s husband. I wanted to share my heart with you today.

This past year the Supreme Court handed down rulings supporting gay marriage. Many Christians used words like abomination, devastating, disgusting, tragic. Mike Huckabee, the ultra conservative right wing TV personality and former governor of Arkansas, sent out a simple tweet: “Jesus Wept.”

Mike, I agree, Jesus wept.  But not because of gays. Perhaps Jesus is weeping because of the fundamental religious literalistic Christians who convey a message of conditional love & acceptance, behavior-focus, judgment, condemnation, hate and rejection — all in His name.

This is so unlike him. So unlike how he was with people. So unlike the overall message of the Gospel. So unlike the truth.

My courageous wife Susan has taken a strong stand, with bold words of love for the LGBTQ community, and bold words of truth to those conveying such an un-Christlike message.

She has done this in the face of attack and condemnation from family members, former “close friends”, and anonymous strangers.  I am very proud of her.

There are those who are even angry at her for her anger.

However, I think sometimes people don’t quite realize that she is not really angry at those in the Christian faith who may just be following along, running the program installed in them by what they have heard and been taught on Sunday morning. For those, she echoes Jesus when he said, “Forgive them, they know now what they do.”

Her righteous anger is towards so much of the church that takes a hypocritical, condemning stance against gays — and especially towards the self-righteous religious leaders who have taught this message Sunday after Sunday, book after book, radio & TV show after radio & TV show.

But much more than that, we are full of love and compassion and grace to those being marginalized and condemned. To those much of the church and the world calls, “the least of these.”

They are our children, our parents, our brothers & sisters, our friends, our neighbors and we will stand up for them, and stand with them — in Jesus true name.

You know what… maybe Jesus did weep — but maybe they were tears of joy.

15 thoughts on “Jesus Wept… Because of Christians, not Gays.

  1. My heart resonates with this. Thank you for the hurt and pain you endure for being advocates to those who some of the world feels are unlovable. God is using you both! May God continue to give your family the strength that you need each day.

  2. Thank you for reminding us that silence is not only betrayal of those being condemned … But I am sincerely beginning to believe silence in this instance, on this topic, is a sin …

  3. Excellent message here. I am sure for every ‘friend’ you’ve lost, you have gained new ones like myself, who are grateful to have someone else light the path in front of them when they find out their wonderful child is LGBT despite being raised in the church. When all we know is what the church has taught, and it is at odds with what our hearts are telling us, we need someone to give us courage and a voice until we also find our way…which is Jesus’ way of love. You’ve put into words so much of what I have been feeling but didn’t know how to say. And I am so thankful to no longer feel alone in this, like there are no Christian parents of LGBT children/adults.

    And for every LGBT person who finds you and finds hope that maybe we aren’t all ‘like that’. And God isn’t ‘like that’. The effects of your ministry are widespread and very important. I’m sorry for all the negative you have to deal with, but know that God is redeeming all of it and making something very beautiful, even if you don’t get to see it all this side of Heaven. God bless you both! And keep forgiving….maybe with time those who oppose you now will come to understand what you are talking about and God will change their hearts.

    • Thank you so much, Lynn. I speak for Rob too here, that what we’ve gained has way more than made up for what we’ve lost, and we wouldn’t trade it for the world. So God picked you specially to bless with an LGBTQ child too, hm? 🙂

      • Yes, and although I didn’t initially see the blessing, I learned that like always, He uses these things in my life to change me and make me more like Him.

  4. Wow, powerful statement by Rob. Couldn’t have stated it better myself. Plan to forward on to Aubrey Wilkerson, Exec. Dir. at OutYouth.

    Keep up the good fight!

    [Shannon Brooke MantromMarketing/Managing DirectorMobile:“We make a living by what we get,but we make a life by what we give.”— Winston Churchill]


  5. I just absolutely love this. You have such a way with words. And I am so proud of Susan, as well. As a mother of a gay son, she gives me courage to stand up for him and all in the LGBT community.and not be afraid. Thank you both for standing in the gap for our kids.

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