Don’t Cast Your Pearls Before Swine


Raj has a tenuous relationship with his mother. She is trying to love him, but her church is so adamant against gays, she has so much fear and so little capacity to discuss it.

Their relationship has settled into being somewhat comfortable, and Raj really wants to share his heart and what God is doing, but mom seems to lash out at him whenever he expresses that.

“Sometimes when Mom and I are talking,” Raj told me, “I will tell her what God has been saying to me — completely unrelated to the gay issue — but she stops me, to say I’m just wrong, that I don’t hear God. I can’t win these things. She doesn’t understand why it hurts.

I know it hurts. When God deposits a truth directly into your heart, it is a precious thing.

What do you do in that situation? What do you do if God is doing things in your life and your heart and people are unsafe and just unwilling to hear?

Jesus said, “Do not give what is holy to dogs, and do not throw your pearls before swine, or they will trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces.”

What bold images! I love that Jesus had no problem expressing his thoughts – even if they would probably be called “unchristian” ones today!

If you have the kind of relationship with Jesus that God gives intimacies to your heart, those pearls of wisdom are treasures to you. They were given for you. Especially for you.

It makes perfect sense to want to share them with someone you love. But if it is someone with whom your relationship is tenuous, someone with whom you are deepening or reestablishing heart-intimacy, it may not be the best choice. Don’t use your pearls.

You run the risk that they will not get it at all and then tear you to pieces. For simply sharing your heart. For having the courage to say God still is in relationship with you and would guide and lead you, would give you something precious.

If someone is not okay with your orientation, then God giving you treasures disturbs them deeply.

How could God talk gently to someone they have already judged and deemed unworthy?

They may not hear and understand and accept and respond as you wish. They may take your pearls and trample them under their feet. Don’t let them do that.

They were from God’s heart to your heart. And they may need to stay just in your heart for awhile.

They are safe there.

The work God is doing in your life, the intimacies God gives to you are precious.  They were just for you. They are available to encourage and affirm. Treasure them.

4 thoughts on “Don’t Cast Your Pearls Before Swine

  1. Yeah- and- “Speak the truth, even if your voice shakes”! If I may speak and know that, however much the other wishes to, they really cannot trample my pearls into the mire, then I may share.

  2. I do this on a daily basis … and I coming to believe that God wants me to stop. I believe it is NOT okay with God how people treat me, as I am his child. I am not coming from a position of anger here … I am simply saying people will treat you as you ALLOW them to treat you … I believe there comes a time when walking on egg shells, trying to accommodate, and being less than genuine could actually become a sin … Perhaps it just might be a sin to allow people to CONTINUE to treat you in a way that breaks God’s heart.

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