Can My Young Child Know If They Are Gay?

"Stop letting awful parents put these labels on young children! It is going to destroy their lives!"  We hear some version of this every day. What these people don't realize is that it is not the parent who is doing anything, it is the child driving the vast majority of these conversations. Gender identity and … Continue reading Can My Young Child Know If They Are Gay?

Can You Tell Which Woman is Transgender? And Why Does it Matter?

With all this conversation about who we pee next to, I wondered if you could tell who was actually a transgender woman. Can you spot her? Can you tell? Do you care? Unfortunately, many seem to care, and have responded with fear-mongering and vicious lies, trying to make this about the safety of our children. … Continue reading Can You Tell Which Woman is Transgender? And Why Does it Matter?

Transgender & Bathrooms: Who Are The Ones Who Really Need Protecting?

What do you when the bully in a school is the teacher? What impact does it have on a child’s life when those he thought were there to protect him, turn out to be the biggest threat? J.D.’s mom, Shawna DiCintio, recalls J.D. as a happy, carefree kid, an up-and-coming advocate for youth, a leader … Continue reading Transgender & Bathrooms: Who Are The Ones Who Really Need Protecting?

A Boy in a Tutu, a Mom, and the Scary Words of a Stranger

"My son wears tutus. It was fine... until yesterday!" This is the story of the innocence of a child, the love of a Mom, and the scary, hurtful words of a stranger. Unfortunately, it is a situation repeated on a tragically frequent basis. Is it hate? Ignorance? Misguided interference? You decide. I will let Jen, … Continue reading A Boy in a Tutu, a Mom, and the Scary Words of a Stranger

A Letter from Susan

In our post yesterday, we reminded you of our new FreedHearts website. I sure hope you visit us. I wanted to write a personal letter here on our WordPress blog - just to share my heart, my vision and my hope. If you are in the evangelical church, or if you are in the LGBTQ … Continue reading A Letter from Susan

NEW Website, Books and Resources!

We wanted to let you know that all the information about FreedHearts, details of Susan Cottrell's books, other key programs, and all of our resources are now located at our new website! Visit the main Susan Cottrell FreedHearts website at: Email us at Our mailing address is: P.O. Box 8161, Austin, TX 78713-8161

The Son God Gave Me

"My child's struggle to figure out who he was called everything I believed into question. With my strong faith and lots of soul-searching, the answers finally became clear." We have been blessed to meet and get to know many transgender people and their families since we began our journey as parents of a gay child, … Continue reading The Son God Gave Me

Can I Trust You With a Secret?

Do you have a secret? How big is it? How do you think people will respond if they find out? It wasn’t always clear to Santiago Salazar that somewhere inside him was a Lisa that would someday—a long time into the future—show herself to the world. After living the first forty eight years of life … Continue reading Can I Trust You With a Secret?

Transgender Teachers?

“Students should not be forced into an environment where they are coerced to accept or affirm a teacher’s gender identity issues.” - Andrea Lafferty, President, Traditional Values Coalition ENDA (Employment Non-Discrimination Act) has been in the news lately, with grave concerns expressed in opposition. “Should transgender people be allowed to teach in the classroom?” And, “If a formerly … Continue reading Transgender Teachers?

Male or Female? Yes.

Sarah Gronert  is a 27-year-old retired German tennis player. She won a total of ten titles in her career and made it into the top 200 players in the world. Sarah was also intersex with both male and female genitalia. She had surgery at the age of 19 to become legally a female. Intricacies of … Continue reading Male or Female? Yes.

Do Transgender People Scare You??

“I can’t remember a time that I didn’t know that I was a girl.” Janet Mock, on HBO's “The Out List“ When I came out of the closet as a Mom of an LGBTQ child and an ally, T was not really part of my experience. I had never met a trans person (that I knew … Continue reading Do Transgender People Scare You??

Encouragement for Parents of Transgender Kids

Issues you never thought you would face. Questions you never imagined. Emotions you were unprepared for. Sound familiar? I picked up a book from PFLAG, Transitions of the Heart, which contained Moms' stories of their transgender children. I wanted to share some quotes from the book with you today. I thought you might be heartened by … Continue reading Encouragement for Parents of Transgender Kids

A Trans Made Me Blush

This is Rob Cottrell. I have experienced a lot in life. I didn't think something could still surprise me, but I was wrong -- a transgender woman made me blush. I was sharing at PFLAG, an incredible organization, which provides amazing support to families and friends. Near the end, a trans woman said she could … Continue reading A Trans Made Me Blush