We have been betrayed by those closest to us. We have written about being shamed, shunned and judged, and how our faith has been questioned. We have talked about people who tell us we are leading people into hell. All "in God's name.” Usually from those in the nonaffirming, conservative evangelical church. Why? Because of … Continue reading What is the Biggest Threat to Christianity? Jesus!
Are we so terrified of an angry God that we choose to err of the side of judging a person instead of loving them? Unfortunately, the answer is "yes" for much of the church. And it is destroying the lives of people and entire families - many of whom we call brothers and sisters in … Continue reading The Ultimate Question: What If You’re Wrong?
"Prejudices are breaking down. Walls are breaking down. Pastors are rethinking their entrenched positions. Parents are choosing their child over learned doctrine that doesn't reconcile with their lived experience or with the heart of God." I wanted to share this, from a Mom who is part of my private Facebook support group for Moms of … Continue reading Christians, Here’s Why You Don’t Have to be Afraid to Support Gays
"You want to shove those words back in and put the lid on. But you can't. Your child is gay. This goes against everything you've been taught. It was not what you had in mind, and you instantly wonder where you went wrong." When you become a parent, you know to expect the unexpected. But … Continue reading To Christian Parents of LGBTQI Children
One of the biggest lies perpetrated throughout Christendom is that God is primarily interested in our obedience. Not true. Patently false. To say our first responsibility to God is to obey is a big fat lie and distortion of the relationship God wants with us. God’s paramount interest in us is a relationship. Didn’t Jesus … Continue reading “You must obey!” It’s One of the Biggest Lies in the Church
"I wasn't allowed to go to the fair," he told me, "because I had become a Christian. My mother said, 'Christians don't go to the fair.' But since my brother Bill was not a Christian, he was allowed to go." What? This was Jim's explanation -- after I'd shared my faith with him -- of … Continue reading Stop “Acting Like a Christian”
"Thank God I'm an alcoholic -- because otherwise I wouldn't have known grace!" JP We dislike trials. We hate difficulties or roadblocks or obstacles. We want nothing insurmountable because we want to be strong enough to surmount anything. After all, we like to feel good about ourselves, and we like to know that whatever happens, … Continue reading When Do You Learn God’s Grace?