Hey fellow Moms and Dads. You may feel like a deer in the headlights! Your child just told you: “Mom, I’m gay,” “Dad, I’m lesbian,” “I’m bisexual,” or “I’m transgender.” I know! This is the last thing you want to hear, and your head is spinning. What does this mean? What will become of my … Continue reading Did Your Child Just Come Out to You? If so, this is a Must Read!
We have been betrayed by those closest to us. We have written about being shamed, shunned and judged, and how our faith has been questioned. We have talked about people who tell us we are leading people into hell. All "in God's name.” Usually from those in the nonaffirming, conservative evangelical church. Why? Because of … Continue reading What is the Biggest Threat to Christianity? Jesus!
Rob and I raised our kids on “Adventures in Odyssey,” produced by Focus on the Family. We measured our road trips by them: “Just five more Odysseys until we get there, kids!” The madcap misadventures, framed in Mr. Whitaker’s constant love and insight, warmed our hearts. We thought Focus on the Family actually focused on … Continue reading Finding Freedom from Focus on the Family’s ‘Gospel of Exclusion’
Cutting, drug-abuse, suicide. Way too often we hear the tragic story of another LGBTQI person struggling. Is there a core issue, a common reason? I believe there is. We cannot underestimate the impact of family and faith-based rejection. Of being told that you are an abomination to God, of being kicked out of homes and … Continue reading The Root Cause of Self-Harming Behavior in the LGBTQI Community
I am fully affirming because of my faith, not in spite of it. I came to believe what I believe after extensive theological study, my own life experience, examining the lived experience of others, research, prayer, and following the leading of the Holy Spirit. It was a journey. All I did was stay on it, … Continue reading You may think I’m wrong about LGBTQI. So, now what?
"Stop letting awful parents put these labels on young children! It is going to destroy their lives!" We hear some version of this every day. What these people don't realize is that it is not the parent who is doing anything, it is the child driving the vast majority of these conversations. Gender identity and … Continue reading Can My Young Child Know If They Are Gay?
It was a big day nonetheless. Graduating from seminary, I enjoyed family and friends here to celebrate, and so many more cheering me on from afar. I felt loved, valued, appreciated, seen, and heard! Gifts and well wishes rained down from Mamas in FreedHearts Moms, my secret online support group. I received many more wishes … Continue reading Flowers for the Living