Dear Susan: We are Afraid of Church Judgment

I can only imagine the rejection and judgment someone in the LGBTQ community feels - especially gays who happen to also be Christian. The ways they are hurt by the church and those in the church - all in Jesus' name - breaks my heart. I, as the parent of a gay child, have experienced … Continue reading Dear Susan: We are Afraid of Church Judgment

Am I Too Snarky?

I have been accused of being too snarky. That may not surprise you… If it does, please read more of my blog posts!  😉 I don't generally advocate snark. Things could usually be said in a better way, and snark doesn't really accomplish what we want. (Just to remind us... Definition of SNARKY  1: crotchety, … Continue reading Am I Too Snarky?

Core Truth To Set Our Hearts Free

Did you hear the one about Sherlock Holmes and Dr. Watson going camping? After sharing a good meal and a bottle of wine, they retire to their tent for the night. Some hours later, Holmes awoke and nudged his faithful friend. "Watson, look up into the sky and tell me what you see?" Watson said, "I see millions … Continue reading Core Truth To Set Our Hearts Free

The Uniqueness of the Sin of Religious Judgmentalism

"In a world where it’s often said that things are going down the tube because of rampant sin, could it be that the one sin actually getting in the way of our mission is the sin of religious judgmentalism?" I love this post by Benjamin L. Corey at Formerly Fundie, and I am honored to share … Continue reading The Uniqueness of the Sin of Religious Judgmentalism

Jesus Blog: I’ve Got This & I’ve Got You

More today from my Saturday “Jesus Blog” – a word from Jesus to you… Is it time to let go? Of a situation; of loved ones; of control; of worry; of resentment? The only way to let go of something that is precious to you is to rest. You have to be able to breathe, … Continue reading Jesus Blog: I’ve Got This & I’ve Got You

Dear Susan: Did I Cause My Son To Be Gay?

My heart breaks when I hear a parent say "Did I cause my child to be gay?" It hurts on so many levels - for them, for the child. I am so excited to answer this question today. I write Dear Susan posts every Friday. Sometimes they will be poignant, sometimes thought-provoking, sometimes tender, sometimes … Continue reading Dear Susan: Did I Cause My Son To Be Gay?

Coming Out Catholic

"I have no problem telling people I'm gay. But it can sometimes be weird telling people I'm a Catholic." Jeffrey Essmann is a friend and follower of FreedHearts. He is a writer whose work has appeared in the New York Times, the Washington Post, and numerous magazines and literary journals. He is a gay Catholic … Continue reading Coming Out Catholic

Our One Wild and Precious Life

I miss the Olympics. I don't like these "off" years. Each Summer Olympics I get every moment of joy I can from watching women’s gymnastics! Those girls are imperturbable in this increasingly extreme sport, performing skills that look ridiculously impossible. Consider the balance beam: the commentator says the gymnast's boldness is the difference between winning … Continue reading Our One Wild and Precious Life

How to Deal With Christians When You’re Gay

Danielle is gay. She is a Christian. She doesn't hide either. That means that she is the focus of attack, condemnation and "well-meaning" Christians trying to save her soul. But Danielle does a great job at dealing with those people and answered her friend about how to deal with Christians they don't agree with.  Here … Continue reading How to Deal With Christians When You’re Gay

Jesus Blog: If There’s No Love In It, It’s Not Me

More today from my Saturday “Jesus Blog” – a word from Jesus to you… Don't be afraid of me. Whatever you've been told about me, if it makes you afraid, then it's not true. God is love, and perfect love exposes and chases away fear. So many people are consumed by fear. I don’t motivate … Continue reading Jesus Blog: If There’s No Love In It, It’s Not Me

Dear Susan: How Can I Unconditionally Love My Gay Son?

Why is it so hard for many Christian parents to unconditionally love their LGBTQ child? What is the source of the confusion and struggle? I look forward to answering a question I have heard from so many parents: How can I unconditionally love my gay child? I write Dear Susan posts every Friday. Sometimes they … Continue reading Dear Susan: How Can I Unconditionally Love My Gay Son?

We Need Each Other

On Tuesday, I returned from a week at the beach with my youngest daughter – I arrived home just in time to start seminary classes. (Seminary – what?? Yeah!) Basking in the glow of my beautiful daughter and our outrageously fun time, I watched a Robin Williams movie on the flight home. I couldn't help … Continue reading We Need Each Other

“Us and Them” – Are We Radically Inclusive?

Does it hurt to not be included?  If it's "us vs them" what does it feel like to be a "them"? Does it really feel good to be an "us"?? I saw the group of people in the airport. It’s a religious sect, whose name you know. Nothing stands out about them – they dress … Continue reading “Us and Them” – Are We Radically Inclusive?

Crazy Is As Crazy Does

I wonder if people sometimes think I'm crazy. Okay, a variety of reasons for that might pop to mind, but I am thinking of this one. When I am by myself -- walking, driving, at the mall -- I talk out loud. Sometimes working through my thoughts, getting them out. Often, I'm talking to God, … Continue reading Crazy Is As Crazy Does

What is Mark Driscoll’s Gospel?

What is the “gospel" according to Mark Driscoll? Driscoll, Pastor of Mars Hill Church, is one of the loudest anti-gay voices out there – every word spoken “in the name of Jesus.” I am pretty sure Jesus would not agree. This is Rob, Susan's husband writing today... It appears that the Elders at Mars Hill … Continue reading What is Mark Driscoll’s Gospel?

Dear Susan: Aren’t We Supposed to Want the Best for Each Other?

"Jesus never added a asterisk to his commands to love God and love others. The religion of Christianity has added all the asterisks." I love the question today as it represents so many people. They have mostly kind hearts and good intentions, but they are so inside their box, they just don't see how far … Continue reading Dear Susan: Aren’t We Supposed to Want the Best for Each Other?

How Can You Still Love The Church?

Vicky Beeching is in trouble. She is a popular Christian singer and, after living in the closet for more than 20 years, she has come out as gay. She is now under attack by many of those who used to adore her, and who still sing her songs every Sunday morning. She is hurt and … Continue reading How Can You Still Love The Church?

The Truth Will Set Us Free – From What?

There was that time when Jesus cleansed the temple - kicking over chairs, upturning tables, and driving out the money changers. You're going to have to do this for yourself. Living inside your head are all those religious lies and deceptions that have enslaved you and are a power in your mind. They are constantly … Continue reading The Truth Will Set Us Free – From What?