This is a special Jesus Blog post for National Coming Out Day! Please grasp the heart of this message, but please keep yourself safe. You know your situation. Do not do anything rash that could put you (or your situation) in danger. If you are in that kind of circumstance, but feel like it is … Continue reading Jesus Blog: Let Your True Colors Come Out
"If these young people, in moments of exhaustion or anger or complete desperation, do share that deepest of secrets with their Christian parents, and even if those parents do choose not to disown them or expel them, something else happens almost instantly; the whole family goes into the closet together; into a second hiding." We have … Continue reading Into The Second Closet: Christian Parents With Gay Children
More today from my Saturday “Jesus Blog” – a word from Jesus to you… There is nothing you can do to disappoint God, and there is nothing you can do to make God love you more. God loves you. Regardless of how well you think you are behaving. Regardless of how well others think you … Continue reading Jesus Blog: God Has No Expectations of You
As parents of LGBTQ children, sometimes we are just starting to be at peace with our child coming out and they drop a bomb on us that the love in their life wants to sleep over! Okey dokey then. Something else to deal with. It's all part of this journey of growth, trust and unconditional … Continue reading Dear Susan: What About Sleepovers?
This is Rob, Susan’s husband, and something is heavy on my heart today. Susan has been betrayed by those closest to her. She has written about how she has been judged, how her faith has been questioned. She has talked about people who tell us we are leading people into hell, and people who shun … Continue reading Is Jesus a Threat to Christianity?
Do people make you feel like you're different because you're LGBTQ? Maybe you're the parent of a child who has been called 'different' because they are gay. I want to share a story you might relate to. 🙂 I’m a single man, going on thirty-three Folks are probably wondering if there’s something wrong with me … Continue reading Do They Call You ‘Different’?
I've been thinking of you – as I always do! – and the oppression of being told to live in a way it's not possible for you to live. (I'm talking about being told to somehow live straight when you're gay.) What a day-in day-out grind it is to live contrary to who you are, as you … Continue reading The God of the Gays
More today from my Saturday “Jesus Blog” – a word from Jesus to you… God may be leading you to love like you have never loved before. To love people you have been taught to reject and even hate. That's a wonderful thing. God is love. But many people - in my name - have … Continue reading Jesus Blog: It is a Lie. I Have No Part In That.
"Does my gay son need to come back to a normal life? Did God give him a reprobate mind because of bad influences? Is my gay son condemned by God and will he face God's judgment?" I hear these questions a lot and I look forward to addressing them today. I write Dear Susan posts … Continue reading Dear Susan: Does My Gay Son Have a Reprobate Mind?
"We will not patronize, exclude, or ignore the gifts of any person, male or female, gay or straight, young or old. We declare solidarity with the poor, and with all who are suffering, oppressed, or excluded." This was an affirmation prayer that was part of a recent church service. I, along with so many others, … Continue reading Until My Knees Buckle & My Arms Fail
Rob and I were having dinner with friends, a couple who are parents of a gay child. The Dad said, "I grew up where life was sort of gray, meaning I could see everyone's point of view. Then we began to go to bible studies, and church and my world became very black and white. … Continue reading Back to Square One – The Perfect Place
We talk with countless Christian parents of LGBTQ children - many just after their child has come out to them. It was usually not something the parent had thought about or prepared for. And their initial reaction can have a life-changing impact on their child. This is Rob, Susan's husband, writing today. 🙂 This article, … Continue reading If I Have Gay Children: Four (or 5!) Promises From A Christian Pastor/Parent
More today from my Saturday “Jesus Blog” – a word from Jesus to you… I never told anyone to write down the things I said when I was here. I never told anyone to start a religion in my name. I told people to love God and love others. And I told people to follow … Continue reading Jesus Blog: The Time is Now
I write Dear Susan posts every Friday. Sometimes they will be poignant, sometimes thought-provoking, sometimes tender, sometimes funny… but hopefully always worth the read. 🙂 Dear Susan, Christianity is all about being selfless. (Or is it?) The thing that they market the most is how life will be better after you ‘choose Jesus.’ “How much … Continue reading Dear Susan: Is Christianity Selfish?
My darling friend (codename Salarcon) is consistently more joyful than many of us put together. She has her struggles, as do all of us, but she has an incredible peace in the midst of those struggles, as do few of us. She is also a Poetry Slam Goddess and host of a new YouTube poetry program, … Continue reading Love Yourself Hard
Do you know you're loved? Heard? Appreciated? I don't think we need a lot of friends, but I am absolutely certain that we need a few of close, real genuine friends. We thrive in community. This is Rob, Susan's husband writing today. 🙂 I remember Susan talking about a weekend retreat she went on... She … Continue reading The Importance of Community
"We were taught half-truths coated with easy-sounding, cookie-cutter, black-and-white ideas I’ve had to sift through in order to get to the complex, grey-shaded, beautiful mosaic of truth... Now I am free, and I am finally alive." This is a wonderful article by Teryn O'Brien. I am excited to share it with you today. Enjoy... Growing … Continue reading Why Didn’t The Church Tell Me These Things?
More today from my Saturday “Jesus Blog” – a word from Jesus to you… Some of you have lost your way. You think you need to defend me, and defend God’s word -- draw lines around it, debate people about it. You don't. Just follow me, trust me, rest in me. I didn't ask you to … Continue reading Jesus Blog: All of Them
I can only imagine the rejection and judgment someone in the LGBTQ community feels - especially gays who happen to also be Christian. The ways they are hurt by the church and those in the church - all in Jesus' name - breaks my heart. I, as the parent of a gay child, have experienced … Continue reading Dear Susan: We are Afraid of Church Judgment
I have been accused of being too snarky. That may not surprise you… If it does, please read more of my blog posts! 😉 I don't generally advocate snark. Things could usually be said in a better way, and snark doesn't really accomplish what we want. (Just to remind us... Definition of SNARKY 1: crotchety, … Continue reading Am I Too Snarky?