Until My Knees Buckle & My Arms Fail

"We will not patronize, exclude, or ignore the gifts of any person, male or female, gay or straight, young or old. We declare solidarity with the poor, and with all who are suffering, oppressed, or excluded." This was an affirmation prayer that was part of a recent church service. I, along with so many others, … Continue reading Until My Knees Buckle & My Arms Fail

Back to Square One – The Perfect Place

Rob and I were having dinner with friends, a couple who are parents of a gay child. The Dad said, "I grew up where life was sort of gray, meaning I could see everyone's point of view. Then we began to go to bible studies, and church and my world became very black and white. … Continue reading Back to Square One – The Perfect Place

If I Have Gay Children: Four (or 5!) Promises From A Christian Pastor/Parent

We talk with countless Christian parents of LGBTQ children - many just after their child has come out to them. It was usually not something the parent had thought about or prepared for. And their initial reaction can have a life-changing impact on their child. This is Rob, Susan's husband, writing today. 🙂 This article, … Continue reading If I Have Gay Children: Four (or 5!) Promises From A Christian Pastor/Parent

Jesus Blog: The Time is Now

More today from my Saturday “Jesus Blog” – a word from Jesus to you… I never told anyone to write down the things I said when I was here. I never told anyone to start a religion in my name. I told people to love God and love others. And I told people to follow … Continue reading Jesus Blog: The Time is Now

Dear Susan: Is Christianity Selfish?

I write Dear Susan posts every Friday. Sometimes they will be poignant, sometimes thought-provoking, sometimes tender, sometimes funny… but hopefully always worth the read.  🙂 Dear Susan, Christianity is all about being selfless. (Or is it?) The thing that they market the most is how life will be better after you ‘choose Jesus.’ “How much … Continue reading Dear Susan: Is Christianity Selfish?

Love Yourself Hard

My darling friend (codename Salarcon) is consistently more joyful than many of us put together. She has her struggles, as do all of us, but she has an incredible peace in the midst of those struggles, as do few of us. She is also a Poetry Slam Goddess and host of a new YouTube poetry program, … Continue reading Love Yourself Hard

The Importance of Community

Do you know you're loved? Heard? Appreciated? I don't think we need a lot of friends, but I am absolutely certain that we need a few of close, real genuine friends. We thrive in community. This is Rob, Susan's husband writing today. 🙂 I remember Susan talking about a weekend retreat she went on... She … Continue reading The Importance of Community

Why Didn’t The Church Tell Me These Things?

"We were taught half-truths coated with easy-sounding, cookie-cutter, black-and-white ideas I’ve had to sift through in order to get to the complex, grey-shaded, beautiful mosaic of truth... Now I am free, and I am finally alive." This is a wonderful article by Teryn O'Brien. I am excited to share it with you today.  Enjoy... Growing … Continue reading Why Didn’t The Church Tell Me These Things?

Jesus Blog: All of Them

More today from my Saturday “Jesus Blog” – a word from Jesus to you… Some of you have lost your way. You think you need to defend me, and defend God’s word -- draw lines around it, debate people about it. You don't. Just follow me, trust me, rest in me.  I didn't ask you to … Continue reading Jesus Blog: All of Them

Dear Susan: We are Afraid of Church Judgment

I can only imagine the rejection and judgment someone in the LGBTQ community feels - especially gays who happen to also be Christian. The ways they are hurt by the church and those in the church - all in Jesus' name - breaks my heart. I, as the parent of a gay child, have experienced … Continue reading Dear Susan: We are Afraid of Church Judgment

Am I Too Snarky?

I have been accused of being too snarky. That may not surprise you… If it does, please read more of my blog posts!  😉 I don't generally advocate snark. Things could usually be said in a better way, and snark doesn't really accomplish what we want. (Just to remind us... Definition of SNARKY  1: crotchety, … Continue reading Am I Too Snarky?

Core Truth To Set Our Hearts Free

Did you hear the one about Sherlock Holmes and Dr. Watson going camping? After sharing a good meal and a bottle of wine, they retire to their tent for the night. Some hours later, Holmes awoke and nudged his faithful friend. "Watson, look up into the sky and tell me what you see?" Watson said, "I see millions … Continue reading Core Truth To Set Our Hearts Free

The Uniqueness of the Sin of Religious Judgmentalism

"In a world where it’s often said that things are going down the tube because of rampant sin, could it be that the one sin actually getting in the way of our mission is the sin of religious judgmentalism?" I love this post by Benjamin L. Corey at Formerly Fundie, and I am honored to share … Continue reading The Uniqueness of the Sin of Religious Judgmentalism

Jesus Blog: I’ve Got This & I’ve Got You

More today from my Saturday “Jesus Blog” – a word from Jesus to you… Is it time to let go? Of a situation; of loved ones; of control; of worry; of resentment? The only way to let go of something that is precious to you is to rest. You have to be able to breathe, … Continue reading Jesus Blog: I’ve Got This & I’ve Got You

Dear Susan: Did I Cause My Son To Be Gay?

My heart breaks when I hear a parent say "Did I cause my child to be gay?" It hurts on so many levels - for them, for the child. I am so excited to answer this question today. I write Dear Susan posts every Friday. Sometimes they will be poignant, sometimes thought-provoking, sometimes tender, sometimes … Continue reading Dear Susan: Did I Cause My Son To Be Gay?

Coming Out Catholic

"I have no problem telling people I'm gay. But it can sometimes be weird telling people I'm a Catholic." Jeffrey Essmann is a friend and follower of FreedHearts. He is a writer whose work has appeared in the New York Times, the Washington Post, and numerous magazines and literary journals. He is a gay Catholic … Continue reading Coming Out Catholic

Our One Wild and Precious Life

I miss the Olympics. I don't like these "off" years. Each Summer Olympics I get every moment of joy I can from watching women’s gymnastics! Those girls are imperturbable in this increasingly extreme sport, performing skills that look ridiculously impossible. Consider the balance beam: the commentator says the gymnast's boldness is the difference between winning … Continue reading Our One Wild and Precious Life

How to Deal With Christians When You’re Gay

Danielle is gay. She is a Christian. She doesn't hide either. That means that she is the focus of attack, condemnation and "well-meaning" Christians trying to save her soul. But Danielle does a great job at dealing with those people and answered her friend about how to deal with Christians they don't agree with.  Here … Continue reading How to Deal With Christians When You’re Gay

Jesus Blog: If There’s No Love In It, It’s Not Me

More today from my Saturday “Jesus Blog” – a word from Jesus to you… Don't be afraid of me. Whatever you've been told about me, if it makes you afraid, then it's not true. God is love, and perfect love exposes and chases away fear. So many people are consumed by fear. I don’t motivate … Continue reading Jesus Blog: If There’s No Love In It, It’s Not Me

Dear Susan: How Can I Unconditionally Love My Gay Son?

Why is it so hard for many Christian parents to unconditionally love their LGBTQ child? What is the source of the confusion and struggle? I look forward to answering a question I have heard from so many parents: How can I unconditionally love my gay child? I write Dear Susan posts every Friday. Sometimes they … Continue reading Dear Susan: How Can I Unconditionally Love My Gay Son?