The Root Cause of Self-Harming Behavior in the LGBTQI Community

Cutting, drug-abuse, suicide. Way too often we hear the tragic story of another LGBTQI person struggling. Is there a core issue, a common reason? I believe there is. We cannot underestimate the impact of family and faith-based rejection. Of being told that you are an abomination to God, of being kicked out of homes and … Continue reading The Root Cause of Self-Harming Behavior in the LGBTQI Community

A Father’s Plea to Christian Dads of LGBTQI Children

Seven years ago, my daughter came out. I love her. Nothing will ever change that. Nothing. I stand with her. I defend her. I believe in her. I protect her. And my life's work is now to advocate for her and for all those in the LGBTQI community. Maybe you have a gay son, or … Continue reading A Father’s Plea to Christian Dads of LGBTQI Children

An Unclaimed Body – the Last Victim of Pulse. Where is the Love?

At a time when a parent weeps uncontrollably, mourning the death of their precious child, what would possibly drive a father to refuse to claim the dead body of his son? Oh wait, he told us: the son was gay. Where is the love? Is the middle of the unspeakable pain of losing your child … Continue reading An Unclaimed Body – the Last Victim of Pulse. Where is the Love?

My Daughter… the Wise, Wonderful Heretic!

“If the you of five years ago doesn’t consider the you of today a heretic, you are not growing spiritually.” — Thomas Merton My delightful daughter Hannah, whose AMAZING coming out post we ran last year, has written another great post on her Facebook page. She is always thought-provoking and I just had to share … Continue reading My Daughter… the Wise, Wonderful Heretic!

Eat, Pray, Love Who You Love. Elizabeth Gilbert Comes Out.

I love how Elizabeth Gilbert - the bestselling author of Eat, Pray, Love - came out today about her relationship with Rayya: she just came out. Not gigantic fanfare, just a Facebook post saying, this is our relationship. She came out now because Rayya has cancer, and they want to be able to walk in a … Continue reading Eat, Pray, Love Who You Love. Elizabeth Gilbert Comes Out.

As a Person of Faith, I Fully Accept and Affirm LGBTQ

“You’re a Christian! How can you support LGBTQ people and gay marriage? Don’t you realize you are condoning sin? You are leading people into hell!” This is Rob Cottrell, Susan’s husband, and I have heard it all! Multiple times a day from strangers. Frequently from people who claim to be friends. And more than I … Continue reading As a Person of Faith, I Fully Accept and Affirm LGBTQ

To Worried Parents of LGBTQ Children

I write today to Christian parents of LGBTQ children who are worried about their kids. Struggling with this whole thing. From a Mom's heart to yours. Easter is the day Christians celebrate new life in a risen Savior. It’s a day to think about crucifixion and resurrection. What God is calling us to do versus … Continue reading To Worried Parents of LGBTQ Children

Would Unconditional Love Change Things?

It's women’s gymnastics time again! It is my favorite Olympic event, of all time, period. I feel the adrenaline as I watch them. Those young women perform skills so hard they shouldn't be possible! They work years to develop their ability--and they make it look easy! Consider the balance beam: the commentator says the gymnast's boldness is … Continue reading Would Unconditional Love Change Things?

It’s Baaack! The Nightmare of Ex-Gay Reparative Therapy

So-called “reparative therapy” is in the news again! Yippee! Nevermind that those who have been through it report the horrific abuse involved, the lifelong scars sustained, the devastating self-loathing that results. Don't worry that the medical and psychiatric community has decried it as not only failed as a practice that doesn't deliver the hope-for result of a … Continue reading It’s Baaack! The Nightmare of Ex-Gay Reparative Therapy

A Letter from Susan

In our post yesterday, we reminded you of our new FreedHearts website. I sure hope you visit us. I wanted to write a personal letter here on our WordPress blog - just to share my heart, my vision and my hope. If you are in the evangelical church, or if you are in the LGBTQ … Continue reading A Letter from Susan

Jesus Blog: Let Your True Colors Come Out

This is a special Jesus Blog post for National Coming Out Day! Please grasp the heart of this message, but please keep yourself safe. You know your situation. Do not do anything rash that could put you (or your situation) in danger. If you are in that kind of circumstance, but feel like it is … Continue reading Jesus Blog: Let Your True Colors Come Out

Dear Susan: Are Gays God’s Second-Best?

Too many in the non-affirming church say this type of thing... Gays are just born 'broken', a result of sin, family curse, tendencies that are not 'God's ideal.'  Gays can't help it - but they need to be 'fixed.' People have no idea how deeply offensive this is and how contrary to the truth and … Continue reading Dear Susan: Are Gays God’s Second-Best?

Into The Second Closet: Christian Parents With Gay Children

"If these young people, in moments of exhaustion or anger or complete desperation, do share that deepest of secrets with their Christian parents, and even if those parents do choose not to disown them or expel them, something else happens almost instantly; the whole family goes into the closet together; into a second hiding." We have … Continue reading Into The Second Closet: Christian Parents With Gay Children

The Son God Gave Me

"My child's struggle to figure out who he was called everything I believed into question. With my strong faith and lots of soul-searching, the answers finally became clear." We have been blessed to meet and get to know many transgender people and their families since we began our journey as parents of a gay child, … Continue reading The Son God Gave Me

Jesus Blog: God Has No Expectations of You

More today from my Saturday “Jesus Blog” – a word from Jesus to you… There is nothing you can do to disappoint God, and there is nothing you can do to make God love you more. God loves you. Regardless of how well you think you are behaving. Regardless of how well others think you … Continue reading Jesus Blog: God Has No Expectations of You

Dear Susan: What About Sleepovers?

As parents of LGBTQ children, sometimes we are just starting to be at peace with our child coming out and they drop a bomb on us that the love in their life wants to sleep over! Okey dokey then. Something else to deal with. It's all part of this journey of growth, trust and unconditional … Continue reading Dear Susan: What About Sleepovers?

Is Jesus a Threat to Christianity?

This is Rob, Susan’s husband, and something is heavy on my heart today. Susan has been betrayed by those closest to her. She has written about how she has been judged, how her faith has been questioned. She has talked about people who tell us we are leading people into hell, and people who shun … Continue reading Is Jesus a Threat to Christianity?

Do They Call You ‘Different’?

Do people make you feel like you're different because you're LGBTQ? Maybe you're the parent of a child who has been called 'different' because they are gay. I want to share a story you might relate to. 🙂 I’m a single man, going on thirty-three Folks are probably wondering if there’s something wrong with me … Continue reading Do They Call You ‘Different’?

The God of the Gays

I've been thinking of you – as I always do! – and the oppression of being told to live in a way it's not possible for you to live. (I'm talking about being told to somehow live straight when you're gay.) What a day-in day-out grind it is to live contrary to who you are, as you … Continue reading The God of the Gays

Jesus Blog: It is a Lie. I Have No Part In That.

More today from my Saturday “Jesus Blog” – a word from Jesus to you… God may be leading you to love like you have never loved before. To love people you have been taught to reject and even hate. That's a wonderful thing. God is love. But many people - in my name - have … Continue reading Jesus Blog: It is a Lie. I Have No Part In That.