If you are an LGBTQ Christian, your church community may convey judgment and condemnation that hurt deeper than anyone knows, or they may support and affirm you with Christ-like love. I don't know which is true for you. But I do know the truth about who you really are as a fellow believer in Jesus Christ. … Continue reading Christian LGBTQ, Love Who You Really Are
I am so sorry. And I am so thankful. First, please let me say that it is an honor and a privilege to be your parent. I could not have asked for a better child. I am sorry if I ever did or said anything, or failed to do or say something to let you … Continue reading “My LGBTQ Child, I’m Sorry” – Dad
I recently heard from yet another Christian mom whose daughter was rejected by their extended family. They had rallied around in love and sacrifice to accommodate the significant physical challenge she was born with, but when she revealed her same-sex attraction, their unconditional love became, well, conditional. We love you – but we cannot accept this … Continue reading Does Jesus Ask You to Love LGBTQ?
Coming out for anyone can be scary, because you can't really say, "Just kidding!" if someone goes ballistic. Becca took a courageous step to come out to her sister away at college and was quite relieved at her loving response. Because they had been reading my blogs, they shared their conversation with me and then … Continue reading How to Come Out to Your Sister
What happens when the church or society decides that something in your life is now a "particularly evil sin?" What happens when they come for you? We have been evangelicals for 24 years -- last weekend we visited an open and affirming church in Austin. I was struck by the immediate kindness, compassion and intimacy … Continue reading What Happens When They Come For You?
Your child is gay. Do not be afraid; it's going to be alright. In fact, it will be amazing! Your world feels shaky but I encourage you to relax. It's not just going to be okay, it will be better than okay. Your child is gay, or bi, or trans, but that's not all. Your … Continue reading Parents, Your LGBTQ Kid is Going to be Fine
Remember the story of “Jesus Scattering Townspeople and Self-Righteous Men in the Name of Mercy and Justice”? Oh right, you may know it as, “The Woman Caught in Adultery.” I love that Jesus instantly knew the hearts of everyone involved. I love how Jesus never falls for any of it. I love that He lets … Continue reading The Woman Forgiven for Adultery
Shame. It says, “There is something fundamentally wrong with me.” It is the lie at the very root of our identity. If I did something wrong, I can apologize and make amends. But if I am fundamentally wrong, what hope do I have? Our greatest need is to be loved, to belong, to be accepted … Continue reading Never Make Your Kids Feel Ashamed of Who They Are
"I wasn't allowed to go to the fair," he told me, "because I had become a Christian. My mother said, 'Christians don't go to the fair.' But since my brother Bill was not a Christian, he was allowed to go." What? This was Jim's explanation -- after I'd shared my faith with him -- of … Continue reading Stop “Acting Like a Christian”
"Thank God I'm an alcoholic -- because otherwise I wouldn't have known grace!" JP We dislike trials. We hate difficulties or roadblocks or obstacles. We want nothing insurmountable because we want to be strong enough to surmount anything. After all, we like to feel good about ourselves, and we like to know that whatever happens, … Continue reading When Do You Learn God’s Grace?
Beloveds, we have faced so much in these volatile days. My heart goes out to Christians torn by their compassion for the LGBTQ and their sense of duty to uphold their moral standard. I continue to pray for God's revelation to everyone on every side of this issue. I am always moved by Jesus' answers … Continue reading Answers You’ve Been Asking For
I had a big argument with someone very close to me today, a mentor. Someone I love very much. She was angry at me for my blog, saying I am being unfair to Christians who are kind and loving, that it goes both ways, that we hear only stories of Christians' anger toward LGBTQ instead … Continue reading So This is How Rejection Feels
Bullying is devastating. If you have experienced it, you know what I mean. Sixth grade was hell for me, as I was singled out for abuse, ridicule, and pain. I honestly did not know how I drew this hatred, but I knew I would never be at ease among these kids from River Oaks in … Continue reading What if Straight was Gay and Gay was Straight?
The Gay Christian debate rages on, with what seems like more interpersonal casualties every day. How in the world can we find common ground in such a deeply personal and sharply divisive issue? I think we've been asking the wrong question. We've been focused on the rightness or wrongness of being gay, instead of: whose … Continue reading A Tale of Two Trees: Why We Are All Asking the Wrong Question
A group of prominent evangelicals recently declared that if marriage equality becomes law, they will disobey it. These God-fearing meticulous Bible-followers feel so strongly about gay marriage that they are willing to flout this law they don't agree with. I really, truly understand their commitment about something that goes against their deeply held principles. I … Continue reading Christians, Why Are You Afraid of Gay Marriage?
"Christians are becoming increasingly irrelevant. They are dragging Jesus down with them." The eyes of the nation are on the Supreme Court as we wait for a ruling on the Defense of Marriage Act and Prop 8. What is at stake for Christians in this battle? Does our stance even matter now that it's in … Continue reading The Condemnation of DOMA
“They kicked me out on my 18th birthday for being gay… I’ve tried to contact them… I don’t know if they still love me.” Jonathan Allen, America’s Got Talent My husband and I sat stunned as this young man sang Pavarotti on “America’s Got Talent.” Tears filled our eyes as his story settled on us, … Continue reading A Love Letter to the LGBTQ from a Christian Mom
We've been talking about whether or not people are born gay. The other morning I woke up full of conviction of how selfish I am. I had dreamed that a close friend ended our friendship because of my blog. Suddenly everything felt very tender and close to the surface. As I began to read John … Continue reading Born Selfish
I recently came out as a straight, married, Christ-following mother-of-five, in support of the LGBTQ community. Since then, I've received quite a few emails and comments -- many incredibly encouraging and some less-than-loving. I understand that views on this issue are deeply rooted, and people don't want to make the wrong move. I took … Continue reading Now that I’ve Come Out of the Closet
How do some men and some women -- even as children -- just seem gay? With the mannerisms, voice, overall demeanor? Of course plenty of gay men and women you couldn't pick out of a crowd. Does this strike you as interesting? A question worth asking? My haircutter is absolutely flaming. You should see how … Continue reading Born that Way? – Part 1