Please Don’t Change… (others)

We are not responsible to change people's behavior. It's not our job, even with our children, especially as they get older. If you think you're going to make your pianist into a football player, give it up now. Unfortunately, much of the church today is about behavior modification. But please remember, the reality of the … Continue reading Please Don’t Change… (others)

A Mother’s Journey to Love Her Gay Son

"My firsthand experience with my own child, has radically changed my attitudes toward the LGBT community. I feel compassion, not judgment. Love, not condemnation." A reader sent this to me and, with her permission, I am sharing it with you... When our son told us he was gay, I pleaded with God to show us … Continue reading A Mother’s Journey to Love Her Gay Son

How to Find a Gay-Affirming Church

“My husband and I are looking for a church that will align with our values and accept gays and lesbians. Our current church/denomination ‘accepts’ them with limits and reservations. Does God only love part of us?? NO! My son is gay and a Christian, and we want him to feel free to worship with us … Continue reading How to Find a Gay-Affirming Church

Hellish Torment is ALWAYS from the Enemy

My heart breaks for the spiritual abuse of people whose heart's desire is to do the best, but who believe (from childhood training) that their best will never be good enough. I have counseled women who suffered sexual abuse by pastors, and whose legalistic churches turned a blind eye to them. I've counseled youth and … Continue reading Hellish Torment is ALWAYS from the Enemy

Halloween Trivia – Are You Afraid?

It's Halloween, a time for scary costumes! But something else is even scarier -- it fills people with fear instead of love and should make us all afraid. What is it? Let’s play a Halloween trivia game to find out! 🙂 See if you know the right answers. Here are the players: LGBTQ—wants freedom to … Continue reading Halloween Trivia – Are You Afraid?

Abuse in Church – Fear Hides, Love Frees

Maybe the church has too much time on its hands. Like kids near the end of summer when Mom is saying, “Okay, two more weeks and they’re back in school. No more boiling a baseball so it will bounce higher or using conditioner on the dog.” I say this because so many in the evangelical … Continue reading Abuse in Church – Fear Hides, Love Frees

You Have Two Options: Love or Fear

John Lennon said, “There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance… all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people … Continue reading You Have Two Options: Love or Fear