Stop “Acting Like a Christian”

"I wasn't allowed to go to the fair," he told me, "because I had become a Christian. My mother said, 'Christians don't go to the fair.' But since my brother Bill was not a Christian, he was allowed to go." What? This was Jim's explanation -- after I'd shared my faith with him -- of … Continue reading Stop “Acting Like a Christian”

When Do You Learn God’s Grace?

"Thank God I'm an alcoholic -- because otherwise I wouldn't have known grace!" JP We dislike trials. We hate difficulties or roadblocks or obstacles. We want nothing insurmountable because we want to be strong enough to surmount anything. After all, we like to feel good about ourselves, and we like to know that whatever happens, … Continue reading When Do You Learn God’s Grace?

What if Straight was Gay and Gay was Straight?

Bullying is devastating. If you have experienced it, you know what I mean. Sixth grade was hell for me, as I was singled out for abuse, ridicule, and pain. I honestly did not know how I drew this hatred, but I knew I would never be at ease among these kids from River Oaks in … Continue reading What if Straight was Gay and Gay was Straight?

A Tale of Two Trees: Why We Are All Asking the Wrong Question

The Gay Christian debate rages on, with what seems like more interpersonal casualties every day. How in the world can we find common ground in such a deeply personal and sharply divisive issue? I think we've been asking the wrong question. We've been focused on the rightness or wrongness of being gay, instead of: whose … Continue reading A Tale of Two Trees: Why We Are All Asking the Wrong Question

Christians, Why Are You Afraid of Gay Marriage?

A group of prominent evangelicals recently declared that if marriage equality becomes law, they will disobey it. These God-fearing meticulous Bible-followers feel so strongly about gay marriage that they are willing to flout this law they don't agree with. I really, truly understand their commitment about something that goes against their deeply held principles. I … Continue reading Christians, Why Are You Afraid of Gay Marriage?

The Condemnation of DOMA

"Christians are becoming increasingly irrelevant. They are dragging Jesus down with them." The eyes of the nation are on the Supreme Court as we wait for a ruling on the Defense of Marriage Act and Prop 8. What is at stake for Christians in this battle? Does our stance even matter now that it's in … Continue reading The Condemnation of DOMA

Born Selfish

We've been talking about whether or not people are born gay. The other morning I woke up full of conviction of how selfish I am. I had dreamed that a close friend ended our friendship because of my blog. Suddenly everything felt very tender and close to the surface. As I began to read John … Continue reading Born Selfish

Now that I’ve Come Out of the Closet

  I recently came out as a straight, married, Christ-following mother-of-five, in support of the LGBTQ community. Since then, I've received quite a few emails and comments -- many incredibly encouraging and some less-than-loving. I understand that views on this issue are deeply rooted, and people don't want to make the wrong move. I took … Continue reading Now that I’ve Come Out of the Closet

Born that Way? – Part 1

How do some men and some women -- even as children -- just seem gay? With the mannerisms, voice, overall demeanor? Of course plenty of gay men and women you couldn't pick out of a crowd. Does this strike you as interesting? A question worth asking? My haircutter is absolutely flaming. You should see how … Continue reading Born that Way? – Part 1

How Do You Love the Gay or Lesbian in Your Life?

"The outstretched arms of Jesus exclude no one, not the drunk in the doorway, the panhandler on the street, gays and lesbians in their isolation, the most selfish and ungrateful in their cocoons, the most unjust of employers and the most overweening of snobs. The love of Christ embraces all without exception."  Brennan Manning Someone … Continue reading How Do You Love the Gay or Lesbian in Your Life?

Are We a Safe Place for Each Other?

This blog is not for everyone. But if you are a Christ-follower, called to love God and love others, it may be for you. I received the following email from a 24-year-old friend. We have more at stake than right and wrong -- we have life and death. I hope this speaks to you. I've … Continue reading Are We a Safe Place for Each Other?

Now What? Do the Stuff!

It’s been a wild ride so far, hasn’t it? Not that I meant to go straight for the jugular of the homosexuality: sin-or-not issue, but Christians seem to be very concerned about its sin-ness! Just this morning I read in John 9 how the Pharisees said of Jesus, “This man cannot be from God – … Continue reading Now What? Do the Stuff!

Is Homosexuality a Sin and Why Does it Matter? — Part 3

My friends... your response to these posts has been wonderful. Some of you have found these posts hard, especially if you came into it certain homosexuality is a sin. I urge you only to consider this is not as clearcut as you have believed… and I’m glad you’re still reading. But many more have found … Continue reading Is Homosexuality a Sin and Why Does it Matter? — Part 3

Is Homosexuality a Sin and Why Does it Matter? — Part 2

*There’s a lot to say on this whole subject, and it will take many posts. Whatever question you have, we’ll probably get to and if not, feel free to email me at FreedHearts@gmail.com. Our family friend Nathanael (name used with permission) messaged me yesterday this summation of where we stand right now. “The anticipation is … Continue reading Is Homosexuality a Sin and Why Does it Matter? — Part 2

Is Homosexuality a Sin and Why Does it Matter? – Part 1

A princess paused at the side of the road when a frog jumped out and said, "Kiss me and I'll turn into a handsome prince!" The princess gasped: "Holy s@&# - a talking frog!" Sometimes we need to pull back and see the bigger picture. The same was true when Jesus healed a lame man. He … Continue reading Is Homosexuality a Sin and Why Does it Matter? – Part 1

A Mom, Some Gays, and the Bible

I am a Mom of five (nearly) grown kids I homeschooled, married to Rob for 26 years, and a churchgoing Christ-follower for decades. I know the lingo, got the t-shirt. Certainly I've figured out that most Christians I've met avoid The Gay Debate. When friend or fam pop up as gay, many Christians say, "It's … Continue reading A Mom, Some Gays, and the Bible

My Responsibility in the Gay Debate

“You can safely assume you've created God in your own image when it turns out that God hates all the same people you do.” Anne Lamott Our culture is in turmoil. We have failed to convey the love of Christ to an entire group of people. Conservative Christians are afraid of "the gay agenda," and … Continue reading My Responsibility in the Gay Debate

What’s a Christian’s Responsibility re. Equality in Marriage?

The Supreme Court is hearing arguments this week for same-sex marriage. This may be the most explosive issue since abortion, if not since slavery. Both sides see their opinions as self-evident; both sides cannot believe the other side is so thickheaded. Christians are certain about what they read in the bible; gays cannot fathom why … Continue reading What’s a Christian’s Responsibility re. Equality in Marriage?