We are not responsible to change people's behavior. It's not our job, even with our children, especially as they get older. If you think you're going to make your pianist into a football player, give it up now. Unfortunately, much of the church today is about behavior modification. But please remember, the reality of the … Continue reading Please Don’t Change… (others)
My heart breaks for the spiritual abuse of people whose heart's desire is to do the best, but who believe (from childhood training) that their best will never be good enough. I have counseled women who suffered sexual abuse by pastors, and whose legalistic churches turned a blind eye to them. I've counseled youth and … Continue reading Hellish Torment is ALWAYS from the Enemy
It's Halloween, a time for scary costumes! But something else is even scarier -- it fills people with fear instead of love and should make us all afraid. What is it? Let’s play a Halloween trivia game to find out! 🙂 See if you know the right answers. Here are the players: LGBTQ—wants freedom to … Continue reading Halloween Trivia – Are You Afraid?
Maybe the church has too much time on its hands. Like kids near the end of summer when Mom is saying, “Okay, two more weeks and they’re back in school. No more boiling a baseball so it will bounce higher or using conditioner on the dog.” I say this because so many in the evangelical … Continue reading Abuse in Church – Fear Hides, Love Frees
John Lennon said, “There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance… all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people … Continue reading You Have Two Options: Love or Fear
Ellen rejected her young friend Becky when Becky came out to her. Years later, Ellen apologized for reacting with the “learned church response” instead of Christ’s love, acceptance and compassion. Here is her letter, with permission... September 15, 2013 Dear Becky, I so pray that you will read this letter. If not, I understand you … Continue reading An Apology to a Lesbian, Many Years Later
This is Rob Cottrell. I have experienced a lot in life. I didn't think something could still surprise me, but I was wrong -- a transgender woman made me blush. I was sharing at PFLAG, an incredible organization, which provides amazing support to families and friends. Near the end, a trans woman said she could … Continue reading A Trans Made Me Blush