Coming out for anyone can be scary, because you can't really say, "Just kidding!" if someone goes ballistic. Becca took a courageous step to come out to her sister away at college and was quite relieved at her loving response. Because they had been reading my blogs, they shared their conversation with me and then … Continue reading How to Come Out to Your Sister
What happens when the church or society decides that something in your life is now a "particularly evil sin?" What happens when they come for you? We have been evangelicals for 24 years -- last weekend we visited an open and affirming church in Austin. I was struck by the immediate kindness, compassion and intimacy … Continue reading What Happens When They Come For You?
Your child is gay. Do not be afraid; it's going to be alright. In fact, it will be amazing! Your world feels shaky but I encourage you to relax. It's not just going to be okay, it will be better than okay. Your child is gay, or bi, or trans, but that's not all. Your … Continue reading Parents, Your LGBTQ Kid is Going to be Fine
Remember the story of “Jesus Scattering Townspeople and Self-Righteous Men in the Name of Mercy and Justice”? Oh right, you may know it as, “The Woman Caught in Adultery.” I love that Jesus instantly knew the hearts of everyone involved. I love how Jesus never falls for any of it. I love that He lets … Continue reading The Woman Forgiven for Adultery
Shame. It says, “There is something fundamentally wrong with me.” It is the lie at the very root of our identity. If I did something wrong, I can apologize and make amends. But if I am fundamentally wrong, what hope do I have? Our greatest need is to be loved, to belong, to be accepted … Continue reading Never Make Your Kids Feel Ashamed of Who They Are
"I wasn't allowed to go to the fair," he told me, "because I had become a Christian. My mother said, 'Christians don't go to the fair.' But since my brother Bill was not a Christian, he was allowed to go." What? This was Jim's explanation -- after I'd shared my faith with him -- of … Continue reading Stop “Acting Like a Christian”
"Thank God I'm an alcoholic -- because otherwise I wouldn't have known grace!" JP We dislike trials. We hate difficulties or roadblocks or obstacles. We want nothing insurmountable because we want to be strong enough to surmount anything. After all, we like to feel good about ourselves, and we like to know that whatever happens, … Continue reading When Do You Learn God’s Grace?